Thursday, September 18, 2014

Open Letter to the NFL



What the fuck?

No really. What in the fuck are you people doing? Do you have any semblance of a clue how to handle yourselves?

YOU ARE DOING EVERYTHING WRONG.

Let's recap your stupendous fuckery from my point of view, shall we:

Ray Rice gets a 2 game suspension for knocking out his wife. Roll those words around on your tongue for a few months just like we did. Knocked out his wife. Admitted it. And gets the civilian equivalent of a five minute timeout. Then video comes out confirming the words 'knocked out his wife' and because the world can see what we already knew, now you're forced to act. You, the NFL would not have done shit had that video not been released to the public. Admit it. There would have been no further punishment. Why? Ray Rice means big money in your pockets. Fans aren't stupid. Male or female we can see that your loyalty lies within your wallet.

Greg Hardy beats a woman bloody and throws her on a bed full of rifles, gets convicted and the Panthers wait until the very last minute to deactivate him. Had Ray Rice's video not come out, Hardy would have played. Don't think we don't see through the veil of idiocy. Not only was it stupid to wait so long but it felt like a standoff between the Panthers and the fans. With the Panthers not realizing the intelligence of the fan and taking the stance "Well I think they haven't noticed us yet, maybe we can get away with playing him.... oh shit they noticed, guess we gotta bench him." It felt very disingenuous and almost insulting.

Adrian Peterson: Running away from the point for a second here, but I'm going to make this very clear. If you took a stick and started hitting an adult, you would be brought up on assault charges. No pass go. Straight to jail. How the hell is it okay to do this to a child? Being a parent does NOT place you above the law. No one can tell you how to raise your child, but your method of discipline is subject to the confines of the law. I don't care if mommy and daddy did it to you. You have a choice to either perpetuate that behavior or come up with your own form of discipline. Just because mom and dad did it, doesn't mean it's right. They were wrong. They didn't know any better. Don't beat your kids with sticks to justify what happened to you. It is barbaric and has no positive results. This does not prepare you for the real world, because in the real world adults don't whip each other with sticks. It's 2014. With all of the parenting resources available today it isn't hard to come up with at least a few ideas other than corporal punishment. Your hands were made to support these kids, not cause them pain. All of this said... Adrian Peterson is not a child abuser. Neither is anyone else who has commenced a well-intended whoopin upon their child. (Well-intended whoopin is an oxymoron, but I use it to illustrate the parent's objective) I believe this case opens up a conversation that should be had about respecting your child. Step back a minute from the 'Adrian Peterson hit his kid' headline. Adrian Peterson has a lot of kids. I honestly lost count. We'll just say he has Less Than Cromartie amount of kids. He's also one of the top 3 RBs in the league. He's a pretty busy guy, but he made the time to be involved in his children's lives. He may have royally fucked up by perpetuating an antiquated form of child rearing on his son, but he was there. He was involved rather than just being the guy that sends child support. There's something to be said for that. Adrian Peterson was wrong in his method but his intent was to teach his child. Obviously it didn't work and I offer no apologies for him, but I think the media has portrayed him unfairly. The word 'abuse' grabs more readers than 'parental discipline'. I've strayed far enough, but that particular subject gets me fired up so pardon me.

The Adrian Peterson situation was handled wrong and unfortunately has spun out of control. Minnesota played into the media's fascination with the NFL's fuckery. The NFL once again has insulted our intelligence and responded with creating a new list for Peterson. A special circumstances list? What the hell is that? Sounds to me like the 'AP makes us a ton of dough we CANNOT lose this guy' list. Oh let's throw Hardy on that list too, see if he sticks.

Then we bring in a Mom Posse to handle the misbehavior of the players. Okay, I get putting some women on front street and I know they are qualified for the jobs, but again we the fans are being insulted. Why? Because why all women? There are no men available to hold men accountable for their actions? Seriously. A player screws up and he has to deal with punishment from women? To be clear these women are extremely qualified for their jobs, but you need a man as well. A man needs to tell a man that what he has done is wrong. A man needs a man to guide him through controversy. There is no sexism in this statement. Like it or not, you need a man on that panel to set a standard for the other men in the league. The women chosen for the job are great, but get a man in there too. Not Goodell. Yes, he should be fired. Like yesterday. No excuses.

Now just because there are a few bad apples in the league it doesn't mean it's a plague upon the NFL. Most and I do mean MOST of these players are fantastic members of their community, involved with charities, able to conduct themselves appropriately in public situations and all around classy guys. The Ray Rices and Greg Hardys are the mice among men. Most of the athletes in the professional sphere of sports are grateful enough for the opportunities they've earned that they are humbled enough to know how to mind their manners. They deserve more credit than being lumped in as a whole with a few bad guys.

Here's a thought: When women took over baseball for the men during the war, they endured etiquette training. It wasn't just a scene in a movie, they were really forced to enter charm school. If they were to represent their team and the league they were damned sure going to behave themselves, take care of themselves and support each other. I see no better opportunity than now to revisit this idea for the athletes of today. Men and women. Why not? Nip that shit in the bud from the very beginning. Set a standard as to how your athletes on your teams conduct themselves. You bought them. You paid for them. You own them. They are games pieces to be traded, used, benched played whatever you choose. They represent your brand. They wear your logo. The very least to expect from them is that they maintain a level of dignity in keeping with a clear set of standards. Maybe the least they could learn is to leave more than a 20 cent tip in a restaurant. Maybe they can learn that DUIs are stupid and avoidable. Maybe, just maybe they might think twice before acting out. A little bit of humbling never hurt anyone. These athletes play a child's game for a king's ransom, the very least they can do is mind their manners while in the presence of the commoners.

As for the NFL as a whole. Put your big boy pants on. Rip off the bandaid. Solve the problem. Admit fully to fostering an environment that sweeps problems under the rug. Stop letting the inmates run the asylum. Take control of the situation and act like the professionals we expect you to be. And let's get back to the game.

Sincerely,
A Female Fan

Go Football.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Boston Strong

Boston is known for it's history, beauty, traditions and strength. Our backbone is made of iron. We've been around a looooong time and we aren't going anywhere. The British didn't scare us off, we scared them off. We are the sons and daughters of the American Revolution and no one person or organization will take that away from us. Whether we were raised in Boston or outside of Boston we all have the same attitude. We aren't the bully on the playground. No we're the kid two sizes smaller than that bully and we're taking out his kneecaps, sending him home crying to mom. The poster is right, You fucked with the wrong city.



We do not bend. We do not give up. And we do not hide. We will not be terrorized by any act of cowardice. If anything our city is stronger than ever. We will carry on. We will not stand in pause of fear and we will not succumb to paralytic inaction. That is not the Boston way.

We are a sports town. Not only do we represent our teams but they give you a good idea of who we are as well. We are the Celtics, steeped in tradition, success and history. We are the Patriots, respected and revered as the best of the best. We are the Red Sox, resilient and proud. We are the Bruins, come at us hard we knock you down harder. Don't. Poke. The Bear.

The Boston Marathon is a day of pride not just in Boston but all around Massachusetts. It's Patriots Day, a day to commemorate the beginning battles of the Revolutionary War. The Battles of Concord and Lexington, the very battles that led to our liberty and independence. It's a day of tradition. The Red Sox play early and those attending the game head down to the finish line of the Marathon to cheer on the runners. These runners from all corners of the world range from elite to beginner, old to young, white to black and they run together freely in a wonderfully 'democratic use of our streets' (phrase stolen from famous runner, Amby Burfoot). This day will not change. This tradition will not be altered. We will not bend.

The spirit of the Bostonian will not break. We pick ourselves up, dust each other off and raise fists to square up with the opposition. When people say "You fucked with the wrong city" this is no joke. This is not the statement of an angered city nor is it an empty threat. Don't make the mistake of taking it lightly. Whether we're blue-collar boys from Southie or well-off businessmen in Cambridge or like me a mild-mannered Plymouth girl, we're all the same. We are fruuuusstrated women, we are lovers and buggers and thieves aww but we're cool people. We are the lyrics of our standard. We are Dirty Water.

We are a city of heroes. Not the heroes you read about in story books. Our heroes are the people who didn't realize their potential for bravery until April the 15th. Those who reacted to the bombs in such a selfless way, those are our heroes. Runners who ran 26.2 miles and then picked up speed to run past the bombing and carnage, straight to the hospital to give blood. Doctors who jogged the marathon, and then raced to the hospital dehydrated and exhausted, but they wanted to help the injured. The soldiers who ruck marched the marathon with 40 extra pounds (of what would turn out to be very necessary supplies) on their back, immediately jumped into action to help civilians. The officers who unthinkingly reacted to the scene with calm, order and control. The medical personnel at the finish line who may have been the difference between life and death in some situations. The police personnel who put themselves in the line of danger while searching for explosives around the city. These are our heroes. These are the people who make our resolve so potent. Our hearts are broken, but our durability and courage is only just being realized.



(former Patriot John Andruzzi)

We will not go gentle into that good night.
We will rage rage against the dying of light.

Plymouth is my town, but Boston is my city. We're known to be Massholes, but you haven't seen anything yet.







** I write this to cope. We all do what we need to when tragedy occurs, I write for myself. I share my words with you all in the hope that they may give someone a feeling of strength. Boston: You are in myprayers.

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Conversation in Red Sox front office... probably.



Henry: Dude, our ratings are low. We gotta do something.
Lucchino: Hire a marketing firm!
Francona: We could try winning...
Lucchino: Marketing firm it is!
later...
Marketing firm: Dude, you need chicks.
Henry & Lucchino: How do we get chicks?
Marketing firm: Wine. Chicks love wine. And cute guys. Wine and cute guys.
Henry & Lucchino: Where are we going to find cute guys?
Marketing firm: Put them on the team.
Francona: What if they suck?
Marketing firm: That's the beauty of it. Chicks will still watch because they're cute. And they buy stuff. Lots of stuff.
Lucchino: Sacrifice winning for the sake of ratings you say? This is the perfect way to run a professional baseball team.
Henry: Totally. Best team ever.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Cry Me A River

I was part of a revolt once. It was back in junior year of high school. I was in Mrs. Jones' English class (my favorite class) and she decided to let a student teacher come in and take over. Well, we were all pretty used to having Mrs. Jones and not happy with the change so it didn't exactly go over well with the class. You see, we knew how to work Mrs. Jones. We knew which buttons could be pressed and how far we could bend her to our will. This new chick comes in and we immediately hated her. Who did she think she was? All running the class like she owns us and shit. Well hell no we won't go. That lasted for about a week. Now I mentioned that this was my favorite class and in this week we weren't getting anything done. I loved writing but being stuck in a holding pattern with the teacher was annoyingly counterproductive. The bully the teacher routine got old and tired and personally I didn't care anymore. She didn't seem so bad once you got know her. She gave us some letter writing assignment for homework and I took the opportunity to address her. It was signed anonymously but anyone with half an eye open in that room knew it was mine when she read it loud. Basically what the letter entailed was a series of compromise, moving forward and actually getting some work done. The class, more than likely bored with the routine as well, agreed. After that it was all rainbows and sunshine.

Mrs. Jones was Terry Francona, the student teacher was Bobby Valentine. Get it?

In the end, all revolutions are met with compromise. So what the fuck is up with the Red Sox right now? Boo friggin hoo Francona's gone and you have a new boss. Boo friggin hoo he does things different. Cry me a fucking river. Whatever Francona was doing wasn't working so a change was necessary. I remember September 2011. I remember the absolute embarrassment of that implosion. I remember hanging my head in shame and swearing off baseball for an entire season. I have the luxury of doing that, but these players don't. As a fan, I've barely shown up to games. As players they've done likewise. There is no intensity, no teamwork, no accountability, no compromise. Just a bunch of whiny overpaid losers stomping their feet and not getting their way.

Let's begin at the beginning...

Ownership doesn't just fire Terry Francona, but they commit a complete and total character assassination on the man before he even reaches the exit door. It's my personal opinion, and that of many others, that the owners were the source of "leaked" information about Francona's marital issues and alleged prescription drug use. I take it with a grain of salt. They knew Theo was heading for the hills on the fastest possible horse so they had nothing to lose. In killing Francona's character the killed any chance of respect for the incoming manager, either from the team or from fans.

I still insist that hiring Valentine was a very calculated move. He's a guy who runs his mouth, calls players out and in short makes himself a target for the masses. The media and fans have focused their frustration solely on the new boss. Let's be honest, he doesn't have much power to begin with. Rumor has it Terry wasn't even allowed to make his own lineup, Lucchino sent it down from above. Rumors, but still... Francona let the wheels come off the bus last year when he lost control, Valentine isn't going to make it any better. He can't command respect in a clubhouse that has no accountability.

(pic via LOLSox)

Not one single player was made to pay for last year's mistakes so why would they change their ways now? The owners have every single aspect of that team micromanaged to a fault... except the players. Not one single member of that team has performed to the best of their abilities. You can see the toxicity in the dugout between each other and with the coaches. They hate their jobs right now. Is it really that hard to put on a uniform and play ball? Shit I'd do it for free. These guys get paid millions of dollars to put on a major league uniform and play at some of the greatest ball parks in America and they're acting like spoiled little princesses. Instead of accepting the new sheriff in town they go to the owners and complain. Boo hoo we aren't getting our way. Shut the fuck up. Just do your job, collect your check and shut the fuck up. The opinions of players are not necessary.

I'm going to say this once and I'm going caps lock this: JASON VARITEK CANNOT RUN THIS TEAM. No. No. No and more NO. If Francona couldn't and Valentine can't how does anyone expect Varitek to get results? This meme has been going around and frankly it's annoying. This team needs a manager that demands respect, Varitek is not going to be that man. I don't know where this idea started, but it's dumbassery on parade. That is all.

I understand how easy it is to blame the new guy but not once have I seen Bobby Valentine come out of the dugout and vomit up 8 runs in 5 innings. Leaving Lester in too long back in July was not to intentionally embarrass him. Lester did a great job of embarrassing himself. No one can embarrass you, you can only embarrass yourself. No one is doing their job. No one is performing. I've heard the boos at Fenway and I would be booing til I was hoarse. A fan pays good money to see a team perform and no one is producing. It's been so bad that the owners have come up with gimmicks that are abhorrent to the current state of the Sox.

Releasing balloons into the city with tickets. A story of a kidnapped Wally. What a joke. They are so out of touch with reality that they insult the fans with this shit. All they care about is asses in seats. Don't even get me started on the supposed sellout streak. Fenway's 100th has turned into psych ops for the sychophant fans. Ho hum if we pretend we aren't losing then it can't be happening. La di da. Sweeeet Caroliiinnne.... ugh blow me.

So who does Gonzalez think he is? Che Guevera? C'mon man and even more disappointing Pedroia had a hand in this "revolt"? If I were the owners listening to a bunch of millionaire assholes complaining I'd have given each and every one a one week unpaid vacation and let some minor leaguers come up. Mandatory game attendance on their own dime, just sit back and watch the minor leaguers do your job. But then of course, I command accountability. Personal responsibility. Every one of those bitches would be in time out. The owners in this case, do not. They apparently think ignoring the problem will make it disappear. As much as they've done for the team and stadium itself, they need to call it and fall on their swords. Check Francona's back. There might still be one there.

In closing, this is pathetic. This team will not make the postseason. They will continue to fail miserably and nothing will change. Let another manager come in. It won't matter one bit. A team that refuses to be led will never succeed. I have absolutely no optimism left for this year. To be honest, I didn't have much at the beginning. Let the sycophant Sox fans fill the wagons. I'll never completely abandon ship, but this has reached a Jersey Shore level of embarrassment for those watching with their eyes open. It's a train wreck and the owners and players can't decide who the train conductor is.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Open Letter to Teenage Girls: I Was You Once

Dear Teenage Girls:

If you think you have it all figured out, you're wrong. Here's some advice that you'll probably ignore, but roll your eyes and read it anyway.

1) The internet is not your friend. Just because you network with your friends on the internet doesn't mean you're networking with just them. No matter what type of privacy settings you have on facebook, twitter, intstagram whatever it is you use... you have no privacy once you hit "Log In". So whatever you post about yourself is forever there. Go ahead a delete it if you like, but it takes less than 2 seconds to copy the URL off of a page and bookmark it. The post may appear to be deleted, but it isn't. Delete embarrassing pictures of yourself too, they're still there. Right click; Save as; and the creepy dude up the street has a picture of you forever. Make sure you know who is on your friends lists. You're putting out personal information about yourself to 800 people but do you know them? Repercussions, ladies. Remember this: The internet (and the repercussions of your posts) is forever.

2) Stop looking for attention, look for respect. Acting like you're tough or flirty or easy will get you attention, but it won't get you respect. The only way you will earn respect (and I do mean earn, respect is not given out) is to respect yourself first. If you don't have the self-confidence to be yourself you will never earn respect.

3) Act your age. You only have one chance to do this. It doesn't matter what kind of situation you're in, act your age. Being a grown up is not fun. Repeat that: Being a grown up is not fun. "Don't try to be a grown up too fast because you can never go back and grown up is harder." (via @CrashFDavis)

4) If you are under 18 and an older boy wants to date you, don't. He wants one thing and that isn't stimulating conversation. An older boy who dates a 14-16 yr old is after sex. Nothing else. Consider yourself a booty call if you choose to ignore this advice.

5) Get involved in extra-curricular activities. Either with the town, your school, your church, or find volunteer work. Do something with yourself other than be a townie. This is an excellent way to stay out of trouble, keep your social calendar filled AND it looks fantastic on college applications. (excellent advice via @kdawg0113)

6) Financial responsibility can never start too early. Having your own money gives you freedom. By the age of 15, you should have a bank account. If you get Christmas and birthday money, deposit it and manage it. When you're 16 get a job. Deposit your paycheck and manage it. Spend a little on yourself, but always have a savings. Learn to manage it properly and responsibly. "Learn to manage your money NOW! Never relinquish control of your fiscal independence." (fantastic advice from@SportsGal1972)

7) It is glaringly obvious when you try to be something you're not. So obvious it's transparent. Anyone who knows you can see through the act and see you for who you are. A poser. Don't be the Avril Lavigne of your school. "Be yourself. Pay no attention to the hype. You'll look back later in life and thank yourself." (wisdom from @jeremyboudrot)

8) The greatest thing I learned in high school was when to shut the hell up. So what you heard a rumor about Jenny from the block, it doesn't mean you have to repeat it. Because that WILL come back to you. The more you run your mouth, the more it comes back to you. I have lived this one ladies. Learn when to shut the hell up and you wind up with more friends and less stress.

9) Care what others think about you. The way you present yourself to others is very important. If it walks like a hoe and talks like a hoe... chances are she gets treated like a hoe. Don't get treated like a hoe. "I don't care. I'm me and if people can't accept that...blah blah blah" Stop it. You aren't you. You've only been in this world a few years. You haven't even discovered who "you" are yet. Don't try to force others into having an opinion of you that isn't based on truth. Show people who you are, don't just tell people who you are.

10) Take responsibility over your birth control. What I'm about to say may be controversial, but I'll say it anyway. In my opinion, as soon as a girl begins her period, birth control should be considered. There needs to be an open dialogue with your parents about birth control by the age of 13. I know it isn't easy, but taking control of this as soon as possible is one of THE most responsible decisions you can make.(another great piece of advice via @kdawg0113)

11) "Less make-up is always better." Make-up does not need to be caked on. It is meant to accentuate, not transform. Wear clothing that fits your body but still keeps it covered. Know your body and how you should dress. If you're uncomfortable in what you're wearing it comes across to everyone else. If you can't breathe in those jeans, they aren't your size. Show off your personality, not your cleavage. (fabulous advice from a fabulous lady @SportsGal1972)

12) Do not blame your problems on the circumstances that surround you. Your environment, your influences, your parents, your friends... no one is to blame for your problems but you. You are at an age where you make your own decisions whether your parents like it or not. No one else will get you out of your messes but you. "if you're not satisfied with your life, you're the only one that can make it better." (wisdom from @paulharvey3)

13) Now I know you'll laugh at this, but listen to your parents. They aren't trying to control you, they're trying to protect you. Your parents are more in touch with the world than you are and they can provide you with a wealth of information. You may think they don't "get it", but they do. Trust me ladies, they get it better than you.

14) Know your limits. I could sit here and preach "Don't drink, don't do drugs." and your eyes will glaze over while you stop listening. You've probably already been there and done that. Know your limits. No one likes the drunk chick. No one respects the drunk chick. No one is the drunk chick's friend.

15) If you have "drama" deal with it head on. Nothing is more cowardly than passive aggressive facebook posts. If "some people" are "talking shit" either ignore it or deal with it face to face. Not on the phone, not on facebook, not on twitter, face to face. If you don't have the guts to deal with it face to face, then how are you going to solve anything? Passive aggressive status updates say more about you than the "some people" you refer to. You look like a scared coward who can't face her problems.

And I'd also like to add this in: facebook is not that important. Repeat it to yourself until you get it. In the grand scheme of life, facebook is the least important thing you will ever be involved with. Quit letting it run your life.


I received some fantastic ideas on advice from my people on twitter. Thank you very much for helping. I don't think I missed anyone, but if I did I'm very sorry. Please DM me so I can edit you in. Everyone who contributed deserves their credit. I'm going to leave the comments open so please feel free to add anything helpful that I may have missed.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

RSVPhobia: It's a thing.

This is not a sports blog. I feel I should explain that before I begin this next post. I may write about sports more in the future, but this is pretty much a Me Blog. Okay, I've explained... moving on.



As much as I appreciate the thought, your kid's birthday party scares the crap out of me. As a matter of fact, the invitation alone brings me feelings of sheer terror. I would love for every parent to just understand this, but maybe I should explain.

If you are the parent of a child with Autism/Aspergers you know exactly what I'm talking about. The mere mention of "party" sends a panic signal to your brain.

Sensory overload! Red-faced meltdowns!

"Oh God you have a laser tag themed birthday party?!?!?! For the love of sanity NOOOOOOO...."

Yeah all of that.

When my son goes to a party he sees everything at once. He doesn't just see ice cream, cake, presents, games and kids. He sees it ALL at once. He wants it all to happen right then and he wants to control it. He understands the idea behind buying a gift for the birthday boy/girl but he doesn't like it. He cannot stick to the hosts schedule it needs to happen NOW. All of it. NOW. There are children running around screaming and playing games and he can't focus. It's too much to take in. Therein sensory overload. Complete and total over-stimulation. Most kids can handle this just fine, but not my son.

Imagine you walk into a room and suddenly a stereo turns on. Not just any stereo but one of those Bose systems with 5 speakers and a bass unit. Now imagine every single one of those speakers was turned on to it's highest possible volume, bass turned up to 10 and everything is thumping. You can feel the music as you grit your teeth to bear the volume. Now imagine a pulsing light. One of those ones you see at a club. Flash, flash, flash. The music is pounding and reverberating through your whole body. The light is flashing in your eyes. How long do you think you could stand this? 5 minutes? 30? Okay, now imagine the room is locked. Do you feel uncomfortable yet?

That is exactly how my son feels when he's put into this type of unpredictable, unscheduled, anything can happen type of environment. It's chaotic and uncontrollable which makes it very uncomfortable for him. He just cannot handle it. As fun as it should be (and he knows it should be fun too) it's not. In his mind it escalates to a boiling point and when that happens it's best for us to escape. So we do. Anywhere we go we have a pre-planned escape mapped out. My husband and I say to ourselves before we go anywhere (zoo, racetrack, party etc.) "We need to be prepared to leave in case this goes south." And we do. My son's comfort level is more important to us than anything else and we constantly need to compromise our plans to fit his needs.

This is not a lesson he needs to learn either. This is not something he needs to get used to or adjust to. In the grand scheme of life, birthday parties aren't going to rank high on the list of important challenges accomplished. But it's important that my friends who are parents know that this is in fact just that for my son. A challenge. I don't feel the need to force him into this situation because it's uncomfortable and frustrating for him.

It has nothing to do with your child, you, your house, your party. It has nothing to do with you. Please remember this. It has nothing to do with you. I'm sure your party will be great, your child and his/her guests will have fun, but don't be upset if we only stay a short time. And if we just don't go, I need that to be understood too. Some days he may be able to handle it, others not so much.

One more example:

This weekend my Uncle is getting married. As soon as I received the invitation I had decided that myself and my daughter will go and we'd leave my husband and my son at home. There's just no way I can expect this boy to sit through a wedding ceremony and then try to handle a reception afterwards. He'd have to be dressed up first of all which is problem #1. You know how when your t-shirt has a tag it's kind of annoying? Well, he interprets that as pain. Real physical pain. So if he's dressed in an outfit that is anything other than his favorite clothes his comfort level drops. Problem #2 would have been asking him to sit still during a ceremony. Not happening. He's already uncomfortable in his clothes, asking him to sit still and be patient and quiet would have been too much. And of course, problem #3, the reception. It's a party with presents and cake and ....oh my God sensory overload would have already happened.

I hope this has made some sense. I felt it should be explained. I realize the inconvenience it brings to your event, but this is what we do. If you saw your child struggling you would help. You would alleviate whatever bothered him or her and you would be there for them. I would love to attend parties like "normal" parents, but that's just not the hand we were dealt. Parties shouldn't inspire fear, but they do for us.

I'd like to finish this up by saying that this is not just an autism-ism (great word thought up by a friend. Thanks B.D.)This is not something that is limited to children with behavioral or social issues. Somewhere there is a parent out there with a perfectly "normal" child who is just as scared of parties as I am. Not ALL autistic children feel this way. If you know me, you know I don't like calling my son autistic. I like calling him by his name. Every child, no matter what their diagnosis, is an individual and should be treated as such. So Mrs. Whatsherface up the street may have an autistic son who can handle parties, but my son can't. All I ask of my friends is to just please, please, please even if you don't understand what I've explained, don't take offense.

I promise it's not you, it's us.






























Friday, May 11, 2012

A Different Take on Beckett

I don't like Josh Beckett. I never really have, but:

Josh Beckett is one of the most talented pitchers the MLB has ever seen. He has a career ERA of 3.88, 1,647 strike outs and a W/L average of .599 (.628 with Boston). He deserves days off and shouldn't apologize for what he does during those days. His start was skipped in favor of bringing up Aaron Cook, from my understanding. It's that simple. He didn't lie and say he felt tightness so he could get on the golf course the next day. He was skipped. This is a non-story had the Sox gotten that win, but then certain "sports journalists" would have nothing to write about so there's your latest Beckett-Diva story.

But he pitched 3 innings last night and gave up 7 runs.

"SEE IT WAS THE GOLF!! THAT NO ACCOUNT SONOFABITCH!"

Relax. The man's supposed to be in a hyperbaric chamber on his off days? C'mon. His post game interview was dripping with contempt and petulance, but you know what? You Boston fans (myself included) are a different breed. You're like foaming from the mouth rabid when one of your players (from any team) is less than perfect. Spoiled much? One day he's a king among men for pitching 7 shut out innings, another day he's a team cancer. Make up your minds and stop being Shaughnessy's Sheep mmkay?

I have respect for his talent, but I cannot friggin stand Beckett. I want to. Don't get me wrong. I've always wanted to. I mean seriously, anyone who makes a few members of the Philly pitching staff look like little bitches is aces in my book. His comment to Francona after his first bomb: "Oh yeah. I can hit." I loved it. It was confidence and tenacity and just the right amount of arrogance.


But he's been exposing himself for what he really is and I love it even more. Why? Because players are not perfect. They don't have to be. I never understood fans elevating players to a level of godliness and then stripping them to the bone at the first failure. This is why I try not to get attached to individual players. They are people, not just expensive flesh in a uniform. Just because they play for your team doesn't mean they owe you apologies or explanations for every personal move they make. They aren't your friend. They aren't your family. They get paid to play for the Boston Red Sox and that's it. Last night I saw tweets praising DLowe for his pitching yet bashing Beckett for his. Why? Because he gave up 7 runs or because he went off the map for his day off? Ya think maybe the golf story had him off his game? It can happen. I'm not making excuses for him, but he is, after all... HUMAN. Even more ironic, DLowe had a DUI not that long ago, but Beckett's the bad guy. C'mon, seriously? These players are human and not all humans are going to be endearing. The amount of flak that Lackey got last year for his problems with his wife was just beyond vile. Since when does he have to answer to fans or media regarding his marriage?? Goddamn ridiculous. I don't like Lackey either, but that's a post for another day.

I don't like Beckett and I don't have to. It doesn't make me less of a fan or more of a fan. I just don't like him. It has nothing to do with golf. It has nothing to do with chicken or beer or any other moronic "story" the Globe wants to force feed the public. He just has a cocky don't-give-a-fuck attitude. Does he have to be all sparkles and rainbows and sunshine? Nope. He has to pitch and pitch well. He is a professional who is paid to play ball. He is not paid to be role model for your kids. He's not paid to answer to you, the fan. He is paid to pitch and pitch well. There is no prerequisite to baseball stating that he needs to put on a happy face with fans. There is no prerequisite to baseball stating that I need to like every member of the team. He doesn't need to be liked.

A little support from the home crowd couldn't hurt though. It's not like it's going to make the current dysfunction in that team any worse than it is right now.

As much as I dislike Mr. Beckett I do NOT want him to fail at his job. I don't take pleasure in his failings, but I do take pleasure in fans realizing that players aren't perfect. If the media could take a break from constantly shelling him he might have the motivation to relax and get back into the game. It seems they've placed sole blame on him for the September collapse. Lackey and Lester are mentioned every once in a while, but it always comes back to Beckett being ringleader. Why? Because you (and self-aggrandizing media) KNOW he doesn't give a shit what you think about him. He knows you know. He knows you know he knows too. He knows he's arrogant. He knows he's selfish. He also knows he's the best pitcher on the team and he isn't going anywhere. Love him or hate him. He's Josh Beckett, ace pitcher for the Red Sox and he is not paid to give a shit about fan opinion.